Divorcing someone with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can be emotionally and legally exhausting. Narcissists often manipulate the legal system to prolong proceedings, control their ex-spouse, and avoid accountability. Recognizing their tactics and developing a strong legal strategy is key to protecting yourself.
What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
The American Psychiatric Association defines NPD as a mental condition characterized by:
- A grandiose sense of self-importance.
- A lack of empathy for others.
- A deep need for admiration and control.
These traits can make divorcing a narcissist particularly challenging.
Common Narcissistic Divorce Tactics
- Delaying the Process – Filing unnecessary motions or refusing to negotiate.
- Gaslighting – Manipulating facts to make you doubt your experiences.
- Financial Manipulation – Hiding assets or refusing to pay support.
- Parental Alienation – Turning children against you through false narratives.
How to Protect Yourself in a Divorce
1. Document Everything
- Keep a record of communications, financial transactions, and parenting interactions.
- Use email or messaging apps that store records for court use.
2. Limit Emotional Engagement
- Avoid reacting to provocation; use the Gray Rock Strategy (responding neutrally and minimally).
- Keep communication brief and factual.
3. Seek Legal Protection
- Request court-monitored communication if harassment is an issue.
- Petition for a custody evaluation if the narcissistic parent is harming the child’s well-being.
Working with an Experienced Attorney
A skilled attorney understands how to counteract manipulative tactics and ensure fair legal proceedings. At SeiferFlatow, we advocate for our clients’ rights while minimizing unnecessary conflict and emotional strain.
Going through a high-conflict divorce with a narcissist? Contact SeiferFlatow today to develop a strong legal strategy and protect your future.
