For many divorced parents, effective co-parenting is achievable through communication and cooperation. However, in high-conflict situations, direct interaction can be more harmful than beneficial. Parallel parenting is an alternative approach designed to minimize conflict while ensuring both parents remain involved in their child’s life.
What is Parallel Parenting?
Parallel parenting allows parents to disengage from one another while maintaining separate, structured involvement with their child. Unlike traditional co-parenting, which relies on open communication, parallel parenting limits direct contact and interaction between parents.
Who Benefits from Parallel Parenting?
This approach is ideal when:
- One or both parents have high-conflict tendencies.
- Communication often leads to arguments or manipulation.
- Traditional co-parenting arrangements have failed.
Key Elements of Parallel Parenting
1. Structured Parenting Plan
A well-drafted plan outlines:
- Drop-off and pick-up locations to prevent unnecessary encounters.
- Rules for decision-making, including how medical and educational choices are made.
- Communication guidelines, such as using apps to exchange necessary information.
2. Minimal Direct Contact
- All communication should be documented and restricted to written forms, such as emails or parenting apps.
- Verbal conversations should be avoided unless absolutely necessary.
3. Defined Household Rules
- Each parent runs their household independently without interference from the other.
- Differences in parenting styles should be respected as long as they do not harm the child.
How Courts View Parallel Parenting
Judges may order parallel parenting in cases involving domestic abuse, extreme conflict, or manipulation. A lawyer can help you petition for this arrangement if co-parenting has proven ineffective.
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