
Today, retirement comes with certain expectations. Popular literature, feedback from friends, books, blogs, podcats, Internet articles….all sorts of sources paint a picture of this stage of life. Getting an accurate overview of what is likely to happen is not that difficult.
When I stopped full-time work in 2001 things were different. There was very little retirement information that dealt with anything other than financial preparation. Sure, Sun City-type retirement communities painted a picture of never-ending leisure, happy folks playing cards, swimming laps in the pool, or enjoying a glass of wine with friends.

Within the first year away from my job, I began to grasp that my expectations were different from my parents. I was approaching the next 25-30 years with a different set of desires.
Honestly, 22 years later, I continue to adjust. There have been times when I had a new challenge and some new goals.
What I wish I’d known or understood, when I retired was the simple truth about retirement: at its core, it is very much like every other part of one’s life.
How your relationships fare after retirement depends on the effort you put into them before leaving the workforce. Your financial mindset doesn’t change. If you have been a saver, you remain a saver; if you take the attitude that money is to be spent, that belief will follow you.

Retirement is a stage of life; it isn’t a complete reboot of who and what you are. If you believe your post-work life is going to be quite different, you may become frustrated and unhappy. A satisfying retirement can be filled with new opportunities and options.
If I had understood that truth, I would have saved myself some disappointment. Early on, I would have spent less time trying to turn my life into an image of retirement that I had been programmed to expect. I would have been more content and less on edge about creating the perfect post-work life. I would have understood that I would be building on a foundation already constructed, not starting over.
I would accept that my body is sagging and losing strength, but to simply slink over to the sofa was not the best response. I would try several different volunteer options until I found the one area that most satisfied me.
